God Puts Certain People in Your Life For a Reason


I made a Facebook post Saturday, stating that I was weary from the recent changes in my life. Instead of withdrawing from all social interaction, I added that I had decided to surround myself with positive people: my family and friends.

Friends Till the End

I’ve learned that the enemy wants me to stay inside and “get myself together.” Well, God gave me some of the most amazing friends a woman could ask for. The laughs were right on time. Helping THEM work through some of their dilemmas actually made me forget about mine.

I realize that post – divorce, I have surrounded myself by positive, successful people who make deposits into my spirit, not withdrawals. I cannot stress enough, how important that is.

Worship With My Family

Today was Women’s Day at my Auntie’s church, St. John’s 2nd Baptist (Pastor Roy Sharpe), and she headed the committee this year. The people there are the epitome of positive! They always make you feel like they’re so glad you came.

All of her daughters (myself included) had assignments. My older sisters, Joanne and Ginger took their places on the program before mine. I only hoped I could do as good a job as they did.

I had the honor of introducing Rev. Senator Erica Smith-Ingram, whom I met when she was a school board member in Northampton County. I’ve heard her bring the word a few times before, and I knew Saturday night, that after hearing her message I’d feel revitalized and ready to tackle the week month! You know I was absolutely right!

I was initially planning to just read her bio to the congregation like so many others have done before me. However I thought I would do her a disservice by failing to put a personal spin on it. As I scribbled what I was going to say instead, I remembered how her messages are always just what I need to hear; on time, and on point.

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From L to R: Brianna, Joan, Smith Ingram, Iris, Joanne, Ginger, Camaryn

My Awakening

After reading over my little blurb about the senator and how she has impacted my life, I approached the podium and God spoke through me.  Who she is today reminds me that little black girls from Northeastern North Carolina CAN grow up to be strong black women.

I glanced at my daughter from time to time to make sure I was doing ok. Her facial expressions would surely guide me back on course if I’d gotten off track. Seeing that Brianna approved and hearing my own words, I sat down remembering, knowing, and believing, that I too, am a strong black woman.

Admittedly, I’ve gone back and forth in my mind about whether I have truly thought through my decision to leave Bertie County, my students, my colleagues, and my especially my basketball team. Let me tell you about confirmation and actually hearing God’s voice.

After the service, I greeted Erica to thank her for stirring my soul once again. During our exchange, she congratulated me on my new job and told me,

“Joan, you are going to make an impact wherever you go. You made an impact in Northampton County, you made an impact in Bertie. You have no idea how many young women and teenage girls look up to you.”

I didn’t even think she really knew about what was going on with me, really. I just thought to myself, you have no idea regarding the same, ma’am.

My Blessing

After church all of us (eight in total) went out for lunch. There were several people there from our service, as well as a host of other services that had turned out.

On my second trip to the buffet (do not judge me), I walked past a table of young people. I was totally delighted to see on of my former students, who arguably wore my nerves down to the core in two of my science classes at Bertie High School. EVERYDAY.

I was so excited to see him, because he’s one of the young men that I talked to about life and making a good living for himself one day. Each time I see one of my former black male students in the paper for criminal activity or worse, death, I honestly think in the back of my mind, thank God it’s not N******* E******.

We were about to wrap up when he got up and walked back to our table. He gave me a big hug and said,

“Mrs. McCullough, it’s really great to see you and thanks for everything you’ve done for me.”

Before I could reply, he dropped some money on the table and continued,

“And your meal is on me today…and I ain’t taking it back, so you might as well just spend it on your food.”

My God.

My Thankfulness for Positive People in My Life

If I learned anything this weekend, it’s that doubt, indecisiveness, and worry are tools of the enemy. If I didn’t receive confirmation within the last 48 hours in every way, I don’t know what else it takes.

I love my friends and family, and I love all of my former students and colleagues. I know my patience can be as thin as a plant cell sometimes, but please always know that I care. I only hope that I’ve made as much of a positive impact on your lives as you all have made on mine.

Now Brianna and I are going to get ready for the “Stop the Violence” march in Ahoskie at 7:07. Caring about my “sons” like N********, is the reason why. Hope to see you there!

Blessings to each of you!

 

 

Black Lives Matter, Right?


Do Black Lives Matter in America, Really?

If black lives matter, why did policemen kill Alton Sterling and Philandro Castile at point-blank range this week? If black lives matter, why were both men said to have been in the wrong place at the wrong time. Is that justification? If black lives matter, why didn’t either cop think to use his taser before his gun? Is that not an option anymore?

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Alton Sterling (L) and Philandro Caliste (R) were both gunned down by police this week. #Black Lives Matter

If black lives matter, what gave Micah Xavier Johnson the right to retaliate  and take the lives of 5 officers in Dallas. Now, five families are cemented in grief because he was “mad about black lives matter.” This senseless act resulted in the loss of HIS life too – Death by robot. An entire nation watched several people get murdered right on their mobile devices. Is this enough to make America realize that simply saying black lives matter and all lives matter won’t cut it?

Black Leaders Emerge

First of all, I’m going to say this and I don’t care if it makes you mad. In fact, get mad. We cannot continue to ignore what we do to one another either. Even more, if black lives matter, why have blacks been killing other blacks at a staggering rate within the last 35 years!? Let’s march about that! Let’s create a movement and a hashtag called #BlacksLoveBlacks!

I don’t have any sons, but I hurt about the what’s happening to black men and women in this country. Once again, I am totally in shock and I’m completely horrified about the events that took place this week in Baton Rouge, St. Paul, and Dallas. I still wonder about Sandra Bland and Michael Brown. Therefore, the only thing that can take this aching in my chest away right now is the emergence of a modern-day Moses, Malcolm X, or Martin Luther King Jr. To them, black lives mattered, and they did something about it!

We are marching in the streets and speaking before thousands around the nation, but what are we really doing about it? Worse, we’re constantly pitted against another sect. Blacks against whites. Blacks against the cops. Blacks against blacks, even.

It’s Time for Gun Control

There is no reason any human being in this country should need a semi-automatic rifle. For that matter, no one should, for any reason, lawfully walk into a gun shop and purchase one! Gun control has to become a verb in this country TODAY.

Gunfire killed Alton Sterling, Philandro Castile, in addition to the 5 officers slain in Dallas. Castile died because he told the officer that he had a weapon but had a permit to carry. He was abiding by the law! So, a busted tail light and the truth, cost this man is life, and his girlfriend and her daughter will never be the same again.

As for Sterling, I saw what the rest of America saw –  a black man pinned down on the ground and unable to move. They promptly executed him. Gunshots to the chest (multiple times) at point blank range.

An American Conspiracy?

I still cannot wrap my mind around all of this. I am trying to find some rhyme or reason our country has come to this. As I watched Wolf Blitzer on CNN Thursday and took in the commentary among Don Lemon and Corey Jackson, I had a startling thought. I wondered if the Democrats had concocted and executed some plot this week to swing more voters from the black community and anti gun rights folks, by sacrificing the lives of two innocent black men. It’s election year, and stranger things have happened.

You see, Lyndon B. Johnson Johnson reportedly said,

“These Negroes, they’re getting pretty uppity these days and that’s a problem for us since they’ve got something now they never had before, the political pull to back up their uppityness. Now we’ve got to do something about this, we’ve got to give them a little something, just enough to quiet them down, not enough to make a difference… I’ll have them niggers voting Democratic for the next two hundred years”.”

He then signed the Civil Rights Act of 1964, ending the Jim Crow era. Jackpot.

The second big jump is the one that you likely thought of first: The Civil Rights Act of 1964. Its passage in July of that year was the culmination of a long political struggle that played out on Capitol Hill. When he signed the bill, President Lyndon Johnson reportedly said that Democrats would, as a result, lose the South for a generation. It’s been longer than that. – The Washington Post

Then, I watched the developments of the police ambush in Dallas, nearly in a state of paralysis. I thought, Hmmm. The Republicans have responded.

This video is up close and personal!

A Call to Action

My conspiracy theories aside, it’s beyond time to take action! We talk about it, but It’s not enough, and the problem is much larger than life in America – the land of the free. Who is going to stand up today? What ended the Jim Crow era in America was leadership and organization. Right now, Black America is a nation within a nation and we’re lost. I am begging someone to please stand up and take the lead and spearhead a campaign to end police brutality, hate crimes, and the lack of adequate gun control RIGHT NOW.

My Nephews Are Not Safe


Here is yet another profound statement from southernmomjd. I was gonna write about this… But she dropped the mic… and it broke. Enjoy!

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Today, I am so thankful that I am not raising sons.  My heart goes out to all of those mother’s that are raising Black boys.  It has become all too common for us to hear about another senseless murder of a Black man at the hand of those given the responsibility of PROTECTING and SERVING.

While I breathe a sigh of relief about not having boys,  my brain immediately zooms in on my nephews.  One a rising sophomore in college, and the other an outspoken three year old.   As an auntie that strongly believes in social justice and civil rights, how do I teach my nephews to “speak up and speak out” while ensuring they will not be gunned down simply because they had the audacity to have a voice.  The answer I immediately come up with, NOTHING!  So then I think, what can I teach my nephews, that will…

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10 Ways To Boost Your Personal Learning I.Q.


How I Facilitate My Personal Learning

Personal Learning never stops. You do not have to be enrolled in the local university, or some online class to ensure that you are still learning. It’s just plain healthy to exercise your digital I.Q. I am connected to my digital world enough (but not too much) that I learn something new and useful, everyday.

Specifically on Twitter, I create lists of influencers who tweet about certain subjects. For instance, I created an instructional technology list comprised of professionals around the world. When I want to see what’s new in my craft, I pull up that list. Most posts are loaded with helpful links and graphics that assist me in my quests.

There are certain chats that I follow like the Breakfast Club (#BFC530). That chat starts at 5:30 am, but I can search the hashtag later in the morning, and get caught up on the  daily question, and everyone’s responses. Simultaneously, there’s a spin-off Voxer chat going on where people from the group are sharing voice recordings of their philosophies regarding the topic of the day. It comes straight to my phone. Personal learning made easy. Sweet!!!

Here are the 10 components of my digital knowledge base.

  1. Technology: This is all the devices I have access to. I use my laptop, an iPad, and my Samsung Galaxy Note 5 to set up my environment and network daily.
  2. Web 2.0: A revamped interactive web experience that allows users to share and comment on information. Before, Web 1.0, users could only read information that had been posted to HTML sites, and little else.
  3. Social Media: I have accounts on Twitter, Facebook, Google+, Linkedin, Pinterest, Reddit, and Voxer. I look in these places for valuable information that may help me with instructional technology, often. If something catches my eye, I will retweet, share, or repin the information. Whenever I blog about something that I think is newsworthy, I share it to those platforms. People who think it deserves to be shared with other people in their networks do the same.
  4. Blogs/News/Feeds: Huffington Post, Mashable, The Bible AppFree Technology for Teachers, and Fantasy Football Today  are my favorite places to go for information. Again, when something valuable appears on my screen, I send it to Evernote or add it to Pocket to read again later, and share it with my PLN (the people in my network). Personally, this blog is a WordPress.com site. I think it’s user-friendly, the themes are great, and the mobile app is highly functional for editing and sharing on the go.
  5. Productivity: Evernote is my favorite note-taking tool of all time. I can use the Web Clipper, or the Clearly extensions (find them in the Chrome Store) to send materials directly to my notebooks. It’s just plain awesome!
  6. personal learning with Grolier OnlineOnline Searching: Google is the engine that I use most frequently, however it’s wrought with Wikipedia articles. There is an alternative to this. You can go to specific sites and search within the site for the information you’re trying to find. Encyclopedia Britannica has a hefty amount of information available to kids looking for trusted research materials. For the record, NC Wiseowl is just deep.  When you search for resources in this space, it chauffeurs you directly to legitimate sources.
  7. Bookmarks: Diigo is a great bookmarking tool that allows you to annotate your findings before saving the source to your list. I use the Google bookmarking tool and save the icons only to my bookmark bar (edit the bookmark and delete the title. The tiny icon appears on the bookmarks bar. When you hover your pointer over it, you’ll see the name of the site). Information that I want to pull up later, I’ll send to my notebook or add to pocket.
  8. Collaborate: I usually run my PD sessions through Schoology. Like in Edmodo, not only can we flip our PD by providing the materials early, but we can post discussion questions for our teachers to ponder, based on the materials. There are also several groups and communities that we can join to share ideas with and learn from.
  9. Online Video: There are three online video sources that I go to for personal learning. YouTube (anything you can think of), TED Talks (inspiration, philosophy), and iTunes Video Podcasts (graphics and photography).
  10. Online Audio: Stitcher Radio is my favorite place for radio podcasts. You can make playlists and find experts speaking on just about everything. Audible.com is my go-to when I wantpersonal learning with Stitcher to get in some reading. Often, I’m just too busy (or just plain lazy) to hold up my iPad or Kindle Fire to read the words. Besides, I can catch things I may otherwise miss, or hear things read in the proper context. Whereas I may have read on paper or on a device with a different context in mind.

Take the time to build your personal learning platforms. Teach your students to do the same. It will all pay off, by and by.

Resources:

Web 2.0 http://whatis.techtarget.com/definition/Web-20-or-Web-2

How to Create A PLN

Personal Learning Network (PLN)


Take Control of Your Personal Growth

A personal learning network (PLN) consists of the people someone interacts with and learns from. Where those encounters take place is called a personal learning environment (PLE). My PLN consists of the people I see face-to-face, all of my “tweeps” on Twitter, the creators of the video channels I follow on YouTube, the authors of the pages I “Like” on Facebook, and so on. The people who share that valuable information are a part of my PLN. Twitter, YouTube and Facebook are components of my PLE. Get it?

Why Your Personal Learning Network Matters

  • Digital collaboration for learning is very popular this day and age. Therefore, educators must take responsibility for their own professional growth. Taking time to fully develop your (PLE) and your (PLN) is tantamount to attending state conferences, local workshops, and edcamps.
  • You can acquire almost any skill or bit of knowledge you so desire with a just a little searching. It won’t take the place of a formal certification or degree, but you learn from various blogs, tutorial videos, certain hashtags on Twitter, or innovative ideas and resources on Pinterest and Facebook. 
  • Above all, own the word, personal. Some believe that it is learning that pertains to matters outside of work. Not so. It is learning that belongs to YOU. You prescribe it, by your means, and consumed in your time.

Components of a Personal Learning Environment is an interactive graphic that will take you to the websites for each icon you see on the poster. Even more, there are endless tools at your disposal all over the web. In order to maximize your learning opportunities, you must be aware of all of the possibilities afforded to you in your digital world. Your PLE is your own collection of spaces from which you seek knowledge, to stay on the cutting edge of your craft.

For instructions on how to set up your personal learning environment, read 10 Ways To Boost Your Personal Learning I.Q.

 

Enjoy!

 

Mindfulness: Meditating Changed My Life


What is Mindfulness?

girl-meditating-mindfulnessMeditating was one of many topics tossed around with a lifelong friend a few months back. We went on and on about mindfulness and soon, she put me on to the ever-growing art of mindfulness. At first, it all sounded like a bunch of mumbo jumbo. As the conversation progressed, I struggled to navigate through her words about the benefits of just centering myself and concentrating on the voice of God. First of all, I had to wrap my mind around actually getting my brain to get quiet. In addition, I was skeptical from the start. Just the thought of this mindfulness malarkey caused everything in my Southern Baptist upbringing to bring forth the voices that had infiltrated my head over the years:

“Girl, you got to pray that spirit of depression away!”

“You need to get back in the church!”

“Where is your faith in the Lord?”

Almost instantly, I realized that those voices were the crux of my problem! I decided that what happened next, would all depend on my desired outcome. Therefore I sought out to learn to recognize the sound of God’s voice, so I can hear exactly what it is that he wants me to do.

So, I gave it a try! I meditated each night before bed for two months with the aid of some YouTube videos and my favorite headphones. Needless to say, the results were amazing!

Mindfulness Has Payed off:

  1.  I’ve begun to feel more grounded. I feel more in touch with my surroundings. I realize and accept what my purpose is in life.
  2. I am comfortable in my skin. I like what I see in the mirror. Hence, I love myself more than ever. Other people’s opinions and judgements matter less and less each day.
  3. My levels of productivity have skyrocketed. Since, I’ve rearranged my furniture, thrown out old clothes and other items I haven’t touched in years decades! Getting up early in the morning hurts much less, do to the fact that I sleep much better after meditation. I’ve actually published 12 blog posts in two months, whereas that’s almost 50% of my yearly average. I’ve found energy from places unknown, and it has been so refreshing!
  4. I have developed a more loving heart, thankfully. As a result, giving to others feels less strenuous and much more fulfilling than before. That giving includes being a good listener, and generally helping others, even when it isn’t necessarily convenient for me (huge milestone).
  5. I speak and write with more confidence. I found that I’m not wasting time searching for the right words as much as anymore.
  6. My intuition is stronger than ever, and I’ve learned to trust it. The nagging feelings we get are there for a reason. I’ve learned to listen and make decisions that feel right to me, without polling my friends and family.
  7. I feel a stronger connectivity to God. Thus, my spirituality has grown so much. As I result, I am aware that I’m essentially connected to something much bigger than myself.

Different Types of Meditations for Mindfulness

One of those may work for you!

How Mindfulness Moved Me Forward

I recently left my job in the Bertie County school system. It was shocking and likely confusing to some. However, I understand. It was a secure job, therefore the risk was low. In addition, I had an unbelievably awesome basketball season this year at 25-2. What was the problem? Mostly, it kept me operating within the safe zone – The Hertford – Bertie corridor that only the brave souls dare to leave. It was time to change some things. I began to soul-search daily for my purpose. Ultimately, I asked God to show me what I’m really supposed to be doing in life.

What’s probably the biggest benefit for me is that the pain a grief from my divorce began to subside. The blame shifting and anger lifted, and peace fell upon me. When two people don’t belong together, they just don’t. Period.

If you don’t believe me, here are some helpful links that may convince you. Enjoy!

Mindfulness helps with depression: A New Study from Psychology Today

Mindfulness Meditation: Getting Started: Feel better, Reduce Your Stress

Mindfulness: Awaken to a life of purpose and presence: Learn from the Guru Himself – Eckhart Tolle

 

 

 

If You Build It, They Will Come


Welcome to Our New Home!

Well readers, it’s time for Social Juggernaut to move to a self-hosted site! In the essence of growth and development, I’ve decided that it’s time to become a serious blogger. I have already migrated your subscriptions (email subscribers) to The Social Juggernaut. Social media followers will continue to see new posts as always. Soon, I will redirect all traffic from this blog to the new one. New readers may subscribe here. [mc4wp_form id=”2197″]

Meanwhile you are more than welcome to go ahead and look around!

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Rest assured, all of the posts from this site are already there.

What’s new?

  • There’s a featured blogger’s area there (RSS Feed). This month it goes to SOUTHERNMOMJD!  I cannot thank her enough for pushing me beyond my limits.
  • Joan McCullough Photography finally has a (temporary home). I’ll be building a site for it to stand alone later.
  • I’ll also honor requests for featured bloggers (any of you) who would like to submit posts!

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I am officially challenging all of you to write! We’ve all been writing something our entire lives. You’d be surprised at how liberating it is to put your thoughts “down on paper.” If you’re not sure how to get started, ask me.

So please enjoy, and thanks for reading!

We’re Moving!


Well readers, it’s time for Social Juggernaut to move to a self-hosted site! In the essence of growth and development, I’ve decided that it’s time to become a serious blogger. I have already migrated your subscriptions (email subscribers) to The Social Juggernaut. Social media followers will continue to see new posts as always. Soon, I will redirect all traffic from this blog to the new one. Meanwhile you are more than welcome to go ahead and look around!

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Rest assured, all of the posts from this site are already there.

What’s new?

  • There’s a featured blogger’s area there (RSS Feed). This month it goes to SOUTHERNMOMJD!  I cannot thank her enough for pushing me beyond my limits.
  • Joan McCullough Photography finally has a (temporary home). I’ll be building a site for it to stand alone later.
  • I’ll also honor requests for featured bloggers (any of you) who would like to submit posts!

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I am officially challenging all of you to write! We’ve all been writing something our entire lives. You’d be surprised at how liberating it is to put your thoughts “down on paper.” If you’re not sure how to get started, ask me.

So please enjoy, and thanks for reading!

 

Apple Finally Put Siri Where It Belongs — Tech – TIME


Many aspects of my life are neat and organized. My computer is not one of them. I rarely purge my system of old files and photos. I forget to uninstall software I don’t need anymore. My desktop is a mess of thumbnails and documents. But over the past week, I’ve had something helping me manage…

via Apple Finally Put Siri Where It Belongs — Tech – TIME

Fatherless Daughters: What Men Look for in Women


The Problem

Fatherless daughters fight an uphill battle for position among women who have loving histories with their fathers. Those fortunate women are seemingly more able to submit in relationships. They know exactly what types of relationships are healthy and what types are not. In fact, they are less likely to settle into relationships that do not mirror the love and caring shown to them by their own fathers during early childhood.

“A man craves honor and respect. That’s kryptonite to a man! If you submit to your man, there’s no way on this earth that he won’t give you his all, everyday,”

I received an alert on my phone this morning that read “Apostle Elect McNeely is live” (on Periscope). Eager to tune in, I tapped the link and began to listen to his philosophy on what men want in women. I immediately realized one major fact: The likelihood that I’ll remarry is almost ZERO. Not because I don’t want to be, but because his and many others’ ideas of submission does not look nor sound like the woman who I am…and I am fine with that.

He says that a woman’s makeup – her mentality, her ability to submit comes from her relationship with her “daddy.” What about the fatherless? Then, if this is the case, the game is already over for me, which explains lots of things. Eventually, he went on the say that, “A man craves honor and respect. That’s kryptonite to a man! If you submit to your man, there’s no way on this earth that he won’t give you his all, everyday,” (or something to that effect).

On Being Fatherless

Being fatherless comes in different packages. Absent altogether, in and out, deceased, or even in the home but not emotionally present, all fit the bill. The first memory (of a total of only about three) I have of (the man I THOUGHT) my real father was went like this:

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I was no more than two years old (Yes, two. Numero dos. My memory is unbelievable, and probably for a divine reason). My mom sat in a folding chair near the front door with me in her lap, waiting for him to arrive.

It was a summer evening at dusk – the sun just setting and casting an amber hue over the front porch. Suddenly, his dark presence cast a shadow over us as he stood in the doorway. So ironic. He was a tall, white-haired man, fair-skinned, thin and was handsome like the looks of Vidal Sassoon.

 

In an instant, I could feel mom’s energy change and the tension between the two of them, and I didn’t even know, at the time, what tension was. Her smooth skin was suddenly wrought with furrows in her brow. Her breathing deepened, as if she were bracing for impact. I remember the short conversation held between them just seconds after he arrived, and it shook me.

I do not know if whether I was more bothered by the statements he made to mom, or if I was mad at her for actually doing it. She submitted. She literally shut up, as if she was afraid to speak.

“Umph Joan, it’s time for you to get ready for bed,” my mom said. I was stunned! The tears began to organize themselves in my belly and had begun to rise up through my chest, but in one sentence, they immediately came to a screeching halt!

“Shut the hell up, Beulah!”

His voice sounded like thunder. My heart jumped. Why was he talking to my mommy like that?

“Give her here!”

We stood by the doorway. I looked back down at mom who seemingly avoided eye contact with him. I wanted to be back in her lap. His arms were like steel. They weren’t soft and caring like hers. So, as most babies do when they aren’t “feeling you”, I planted the palms of my hands firmly on his chest and stretched my arms out, locking my elbows to push myself back. I didn’t want to feel his breath nor stubble of his beard on my face. I didn’t want to lie closely to his chest.

I didn’t want his hands on me, period, especially after that awkward exchange with my mommy. Oddly enough, I do not know if whether I was more bothered his statements to mom, or if I was mad that she actually did it. She submitted. She literally shut up, as if she was afraid to speak.

Impression made:

Never let a man talk down to you, and if you do, you are weak. 

Of course, I cannot ignore the question, why would she say that it was time to go to bed the minute he got there to see me? Who knows? Maybe he was hours late. Perhaps they had argued on the phone. Maybe even mom saw him in town with another woman earlier in the day, or worse: with his wife.

The bottom line is, anytime a man (in relationships) talks down to me for any reason, a part of me goes back to that evening in 1977. I am more likely to rebel than to submit. I don’t apologize for the inability to stay in my place. I don’t apologize for being a survivor nor a warrior. I only apologize for not knowing how to navigate through the jungle called, “Knowing How to Be.” I attribute most of this to being in fact, fatherless.

However, because I do love myself, and because I know that God makes no mistakes, this is my philosophy: If the woman I’ve become as a result of my experiences during my formative years doesn’t fall into the “What Men Look for in Women” category, again: I am fine with that.

I will say that I was blessed to have a great stepfather/uncle in my life from age ten on. So at least, all was not lost!

Watch Apostle Elect McNeely on Periscope, as he discusses the devil’s impact on our modern views on submission. What do you think of his views?

Until next time…